Select Category » Newlyweds » Communication is the Key

Name: Karen L.   Title: Communication is the Key

My husband shuts down whenever I try to discuss issues with him. Prior to our marriage he would be open in his communication, now whenever the tension gets high he just shuts down. How can I get him to open up?

Your Name

Your Reply

Name: Greg W.

Communication is one of the most basic skills needed to maintain a healthy marriage, it is especially important that couples master this ability so, it is essential that you learn how to become a good communicator. Your attitude is important to being an effective communicator, without the correct attitude your words will come out wrong. You may be right in what you are saying, but it’s the way that you say it that may turn your husband off. Speak in such a way that your husband will receive what you are saying; your actions will either enhance or hinder your ability to effectively communicate with him. Are you a good listener, do you find that you are quick to interrupt when your spouse is talking? When you interrupt, it means you are thinking of how you want to respond instead of really listening, and this hinders meaningful and enjoyable conversation with your husband. Do you ever offer an encouraging word, look at the good things he has done and let him know that you appreciate them. If harsh and critical words destroy your communication, think of what praise and appreciation will do. Take the time to talk and to spend time together.

Name: Adelia

Take him to a neutral territory like outside of the house, try to talk with him and not at him.