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Name: Juliet   Title: So alone even when hubby is home

I'm so lonely. My husband seems to think I do nothing all day even though I am raising our very high strung 2 1/2 yr old son. Hubby isn't home an hour and wants to put our son to bed. When hubby is home he's either on the computer, watching wrestling or doing stupid little projects around the house. I suggest we do something and its a constant battle with him saying what do you want to do. I feel he should take the initiative and plans things for the weekend when he's off work. The only attention I get is when he wants sex and I want more than just that. I don't even feel sexual anymore. I feel we have nothing in common anymore except that we have a child together. I've told him time and time again that I'm lonely and it doesn't phase him. If I suggest we watch a movie together he is the first one to fall asleep. I could go on and on but that's a portion of the issues. Not sure what my limit is here

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Name: Lisa

I can honestly relate. I been married for 12 yrs and I cannot honestly say they have been happy. I married someone my total opposite at 23 yrs old and we have diffferent family beliefs and relationships. I think he is boring and our marriage is boring. He has no sense of humor and I love to laugh. When I am alone with him I am bored to death and to try to have a conversation with him is depressing it is like watching paint dry. I think about other guys all the time and wonder would I be so bored and unhappy with them as my husband. I always says he is happy...at least someone is happy because I am certainly not.

Name: mocha

i know how you all feel im 33 y/o .have an 8 month daughter ,i work 2 nites weekly at a bar .the pay is crap,my husband works 5 days a week ,good wages,our daily thing is he gets up for work ,arrives home eats dinner ,puts baby to bed he goes to bed 10pm,,our conversations are nil, he causes me so much pain ,when i want to be physically close to him ,his reaction is im tired ive to be up at 5 ,or the kids will hear us ,he is 45 y/o i dont know what his prob is ,he does not want sex ,ihe makes me feel like ima sex addict,when im only normal,i want to leave him but i feel i cant with the baby ,i want to scream out crying ,but it wont help ,i cant talk to him ,i want so badly to have a husband ,companion ,i wont get it from him .i want out out out,anyone who has no kids in a marriage where its boring like mine ,get out please dont waste your life waiting to be loved by a loveless man like mine ,go girls run like hell

Name: maz

i am in same boat!he's always @ work and comes home to eat and sleep.we have a 4 y/o and 6 m/o.its so frustrating.he's too tired to do anything with me besides sex.i feel that im just there for him to use when he wants sex and after that he couldnt care less.i try talking to him but of course the only talk time we get is in bed and yes he's tired!he works 7 days but sundays are his short days however instead of spending that time with me and our girls,he goes to soccer and when he comes back he eats and sleeps.im 26 y/o and we've been married 5 yrs.i feel so lonely and i miss how we used to be.

Name: ANL

I am in the same boat. I have a 3 mo old. Before we had my son, I worked in the evenings and he worked in the daytime. Needless to say we never saw each other. He always complained that he wanted me to find a job that would allow me to have evenings off. So, after my son was born, I decided to take a job with my dads company that allowed me to work from home. Now i stay home and the usual scene around the house is him in the living room playing xbox and the baby and I in our room playing or watching tv. One day i decided to look for two books one called How to light his Fire and the other is How to light her fire. The book is very enlightening and i think it could help a marriage that is salvageable or two people that really want to make their marriage work. I have not finished reading it and neither has my husband. However, I only have 20 pgs left while he still has 100+. Good Luck to all as I think I am almost to my tipping point and ready to say goodbye and good riddens....

Name: topaze

im kinda in the same boat but when my hubby comes home it is supper beer sometimes tv but he is in bed a sleep before 8 he stays out in his truck at least 2 nights a week im alone whe he is gone and alone when he is home taking care of the house and our 11 year old

Name: Polywog

I am in the same boat. I have a 2 y/o and a 5 y/o. I am losing my marriage and my lfe to golf. It's all he does, watches and talks about. I feel like I a, constantly attending to someone else's needs . . . the kids, the dog, the occasional sex (which I never even want anymore.) My husband falls asleep in his chair every night, leaving me with two kids to bathe, do homework with, feed, get to bed. It's really getting annoying. Wish I had some brilliant advice for you but I am looking for some myself. hang in there Juliet! At least there is hope in knowing you are not alone!

Name: powersound

I am going through the same thing. I have a 2 year old and a 6 month old.

Name: Dandelion

I have been going through the same thing. I know you can't just pull him aside for a long talk, because you can't even pull him aside for a small talk. And if you try to take him out so it's just the two of you, he'll focus on entertainment (TV, recreation, chatting w/guys) rather than on you. When I get tired of waiting for attention and start requesting for it, he makes it sound like I'm a burden to him. I used to save him a seat at social gatherings for 3 years... I stopped saving that seat because he was always too busy talking to other people. I feel like a trophy that is just shelved after the wedding, just material, achievements to him. I can't offer you advice, but only relate to you so that you know you aren't just manifesting these feelings because they are real. I just wish someone would have good advice.

Name: jeanette

i understand what you are talking about you feel alone around the house when he is around you maybe need to talk to him and sit down and have a long talk;.. maybe he is imature to be married or maybe he don't know how to be a husband . i do realize when you are in a relatoinship it takes two and yes you may feel lonely at times but he needs to start understanding your feelings and who you are to him his wife.. or maybe he is feeling the same way and you don't know it.. take him out to a movie or perhaps him you want to spend a week out of town and get reconnected and have you son baby sat..