My husband and I met 8 years ago. We now have 3 wonderful boys. My mother-in-law came here in the United States 4 years ago and have lived with us since. We pay for all of her expenses, food, shelter, clothing and medical expenses. On top of that, taking her to all of her medical appointments took a lot of my time away from my work, unpaid. Aside from this, we also gave her weekly allowances of $50-100 for watching our youngest son who is not very hard to care for. Since my mother-in-law does not read or write and does not understand or speak English, she can not actually do anything else. So, when she first came, she started taking over my kitchen and my dishes. Since she is taking over, without consulting me, I thought of teaching her the ways I would like my dishes to be done. I am germaphobe, so I have certain ways such as washing hands before touching the clean plates, bottles, etc. She got offended when I corrected her to do things the way I would want them done. She made a big deal and called her daughter in L.A. so that she can move in with her. I was fine by that. 2 months after, she called and asked me if she can come back. Of course I said yes, but on some conditions. So, I started teaching her my ways and for some reason she has already forgotten and she is back to her old ways. She will take offense over a very little thing such. Now, the problem is, she is now bringing with her 3 packages. Meaning, her 3 teenage boys are coming to live with me and my husband and my 3 little boys in a 3 bedroom house. I have one younger brother and he is now married with 2 kids and although struggling, he is doing well on his own, independently and responsibly. Now, my problem is, I do not know what to say to my husband. He is very sensitive when it comes to his relatives.
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