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Name: Amy T   Title: So easy for us to argue

My husband and I fight over the smallest issues, I feel as if we have grown apart in our relationship. Why can't we see eye to eye?

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Name: Jane

I woke up this morning in a bad mood but after reading this post my state of mind got better.

Name: Mw

I also agree with M and Jessica. Make sure your both at your best as well when you discuss things. As we can all so easily come across the wrong way and without even realizing it. Miscommunication happens so easy. Make sure each other knows how much you value, respect and love each other. How much you both are committed to your marriage and the well being of each other that you just want to improve things between you not point blame at or wound one another.

Name: Mw

Why are you letting small stuff divide you so easily? Sometimes people need to know they are simply valued for who they are and not what they do. There is something more going on and you need to really make sure your communicating what really matters and your heart.

Name: M

I agree with Jessica R- it really helps to talk things over. For example: What are you fighting about exactly? I found out that when I criticize my husband I often need more attention than I get- or sometimes I am in a bad mood and put it on him...When you fight about the smallest issue, it could be that there are deeper problems you never talk about which causes this. Try to sit down together and tell- without accusing- how you feel when the other does this or that. In addition, I recommmend the book "10 minutes a day to a better marriage" which gives you advice how to start such a talk. helped me a lot.

Name: Jessica R

My husband and I have been having the same problem not that long ago. We were arguing all the time. We didn’t start fighting until he got a promotion at work and our time spent together became almost non-existent. I started getting worried and having doubts about our marriage. After one of our biggest blowups we decided to sit down and discuss all the issues and fears we had within our marriage. It was amazing what I was able to find out, he had been having problems with transitioning into his new position and it did not help that whenever he got home I wanted to have “a talk” . Well, after our discussion we felt good about us because it showed us we could fight and not just end it, we did really love each other.