My wonderful boyfriend of 2 years and i are planning to marry in about a year. I still have 5 children living at home ranging in ages from 10 to 22. All up I have 8 children. The children all love my guy, and get along really well with him. We are trying to find a house big enough to fit us all in when we marry, I am contributing half of the money, and he the other half. The problem that has now risen is this.... he has three children, 16 year old daughter, 19 son, and 21 son. They never sleep over at his place, even though he at the moment has a spare room, just in case they might want to, especially the youngest girl. He said he wants a room set up for his daughter, just so she knows he still loves her, and i just dont know how we are going to do this, as we will barely be able to afford a house, and the room for myself and the children still living with me. His children live with their mum, and are used to having a room on their own, and a study area etc. My children have always doubled up in rooms, and shared the space. I suggested maybe a sofa bed that would be available, or a trundle bed, but he said he doesnt want them to feel like they are guests in our house, but wants them to feel part of the family. I would treat my children like that, they will sleep anywhere on lounges etc. anyway i just dont know what to do with this. i am worrying that something we have so wonderful is going to be messed up. My childrens father, doesnt ever take them to sleep at his place, and has very minimal contact with them. I suggested to my guy, that our house would always be open to his children, and i would and will treat them the same as mine, and will let them know over time how much we love them, and our house is always open to them.Also my guy is used to having a big space, study to study, room each for each kid etc. and i am worried he will not be able to live as we will have to, he does on weekends when he comes to my place
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